That was written in the late evening of the 29th of November 2011. Today is the 1 year anniversary of that visit. Chris Samuel (@chris_bloke) and his wife went through a similar event somewhat before we did. And he pointed out this XKCD to everyone on his twitter feed.
We got our surgical slot quickly, I believe we were given priority. Not sure why, but the post-operative analysis indicated that the cancer had broken out of the duct, and was growing rapidly.
I said later
Even if its an “everyone gets this” scenario, the C-word can be pretty devastating. Even if you aren’t the one diagnosed, you are going through this with them. And sometimes, that means carrying them, and everything else, and soldiering onward. In retrospect, I am amazed at how composed and goal oriented we were. If you are not the one diagnosed, you shouldn’t simply put on a brave face. You have to be brave. Even if you are terrified inside. They can’t see that. They are looking to you for hope, to know that this is going to be all better. Even if you don’t know … you need to convey that strong, positive mental outlook. Plan for the future. The distant future. Make sure they see that your footsteps are moving forward, and theirs should be too.
After the surgical part was over, its time to look at the scoreboard. See what the tea leaves, and pathology report … but mostly the pathology report tell you. And I wrote a post about this.
In 4 weeks time, we will be at a Trans Siberian Orchestra concert in Auburn Hills, at the Palace of Auburn hills. That will also be the one year anniversary of the surgery.
In 4 more years we can declare her winning this battle.
And maybe then, I can complete that exhalation.